Why Forgiveness is so Hard?
In life, some things don't always come easy, and forgiveness is often one of those things. When someone hurts us, especially someone close to us, it can be difficult to forgive them. Often we become angry when others hurt us, and that anger can build into resentment. Like a wound left untreated, the anger and resentment worsen and infect our whole being. Before we let anger infect and affect us, we need to learn to forgive.
Many studies have been done on forgiveness and why it is important. Generally, studies indicate people who forgive have lower blood pressure and reduced stress levels. Also, people who forgive show fewer symptoms of anxiety and depression and reduced chronic pain. Overall, people who forgive experience better health, both physically and emotionally. They also experience a more positive spiritual well-being. Basically, people who learn to forgive others are happier than if they had not forgiven.
Technically when we spend so much time feeling hurt, we are playing a victim role. When we fail to forgive, we are becoming a slave to our anger and resentment and losing our ability to be at peace. Life is far too short to waste time feeling angry about something that happened in the past. That does not mean we should forget the past and what happened; instead acknowledge our feelings about what happened and try to learn from the situation. We need to Put aside differences and focus on other positive aspects of our life.
From religious point of view nothing is more central to God’s relationships than the act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is about reconciliation. It is about breaking down the barriers that prevent an intimate relationship. Forgiveness is so important to God that he provided the ultimate sacrifice for the sole purpose of establishing a relationship with mankind. It is one of the deepest and most intense spiritual manifestations. And from the spiritual perspective, it has to be completely honest, integral and absolute. Our spirit burns from what we see as an assault, whether it be the unkind word, an undermining act, unfair criticism or simply unacceptable behavior. When we release the pain of the past we can then learn to be open to what the future can bring.
Forgiveness is the most important single process that brings peace to our soul and harmony to our life. All of us, at some point in our lives, have been hurt and wounded by the actions or words of another. Sometimes the grievances have been so great we thought, no way, this I cannot forgive! Resentment and hostility can run so deep that forgiveness becomes very difficult. We feel we have a right to our indignation. Forgiveness is the key to our own happiness. Forgiving someone else takes moral courage. It ends the illusion of separation, and its power can change misery into happiness in an instant. Forgiveness means choosing to let go, move on, and favor the positive.
As I have shown above that forgive is, in a sense, to love one's enemy. The best gift we can give ourselves is giving ourselves permission to forgive even when we have been hurt deeply. Forgiveness is liberating, renovating, regenerating and in addition it changes us from the victim’s position, to self confidence, appreciation and spirit of good.
Therefore tonight I forgive you. I am moving on with my life. I will not let my resentments pull me down. I give up my anger which has been holding me back. God is good and he will stand on my side, because I noticed that life must go on, and all the burdens must be unloaded through forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift you give to me and it builds confidence that I can survive the pain and grow from it.
ARE YOU READY TO JOIN ME IN CROSSING A FORGIVENESS BRIADGE?
Matthew 5:24
Leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gif
Leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gif
“He that cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass if he would ever reach heaven; for everyone has need to be forgiven” |
The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise. Alden Nowlan He who forgives, and is reconciled unto his enemy, shall receive his reward from God; for he loves not the unjust doers. Koran A wise man will make haste to forgive, because he knows the full value of time and will not suffer it to pass away in unnecessary pain. Rambler |
Mark 11:25
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.
Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
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