WE ARE PROFESSORS OF THE PAST;

It is true that we always on negative thoughts and feelings until we learn how to overcome them. Pain is the only solution which drives us as human being in making changes and at the same time we fight against resistance of change; but making changes seems to be painful for humans too, there tends to be resistance. We dwell on the negative because it's what we remember the most... hatefulness, regret, discipline (I shouldn't count this since it does develop us, but the process is still a hassle,) mockery, remorse. That's all an aspire is put through most of its life, which I think is sad and because of this situation we are all professors of the past

Rejection is one of the most painful in our life; the fear of being rejected creates a very damaging pattern of behavior in our lives. It can cause us to feel that we are not good enough and that we are a failure; phrase like I hate you; I don’t love you; I have no feeling with you anymore; your are dam; etc. all these can cause us to become obsessive, clingy and jealous and can also destroy relationships that have barely begun through us becoming too serious too soon which can drive others away; we can sometimes feel anxious and even angry as we falsely believe that this means that they don’t want to spend time with us.

What we should know that once we are in such situation we can start to feel humiliated, lonely, pathetic, not good enough, useless, inadequate and a loser. The more we dwell on these feelings, the more pain we’re putting ourselves through and the harder it becomes to put ourselves ‘out there’ again for fear that the same thing will happen next time

What should we do now? We need to be confident, because a confident person realizes that rejection is simply a part of the risk of living and that, in order to grow spiritually, we all have to take the occasional risk and step outside of our comfort zone. They don’t take rejection personally and often view it as a flaw on the other person’s behalf as opposed to feeling bad about themselves. In other words, they think it’s the other person’s loss.

Try to draw a picture in your mind about how, when and why such situation happened to you or your friend so what kind of experience did you learn? You will agree with me with this scientific analysis about any bad past experience;

 “Most of us have experiences involving love, hate, fear, pain, loneliness, anxiety and happiness. These more intense memories are lodged into memory with chemicals that can cause dissonance and cause depression and anxiety later in life depending on their intensity. So, if you have had a bad experience in a relationship in the past and it has caused you some pain, worry and anxiety, it is therefore a significant memory and will be easily triggered by a stimulus. It can then resurface with the old feelings of sadness etc. You can get stuck in the past”.

Let us not be A PROFESSOR OF PAST by REJECTION.