Why are we judgmental towards others?

We’ve all heard it before, but no one is perfect. There is not one person who has lived who has not made a mistake. Walt Whitman advised us that “Be curious, not judgmental.”

“I am grateful that I am not as judgmental as all those censorious, self-righteous people around me.” – Anonymous

But the problem is that we as human beings we are all judgmental. Yes, even me. I certainly am, many times. I think it’s human nature but I think we make it as a habit and we can practice not to be one. Although  it is in our nature to be judgmental, I don’t think it’s always useful to us. We always prefer to  look down on others, and feel that as if we are so much better than “them”. You know what by doing so we always create division between people.

As human being we so quickly  pass judgment to someone, based on their looks or actions.  The problem we don’t make effort of even knowing or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

 

 

Principles of stopping judging others:

• If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself, and observe your thoughts. Instead of judging someone for what he’s done or how he looks, try instead to understand the person. Put yourself in their shoes. Try to imagine their background..

• Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to accept. Accept that person for who he is, without trying to change him. Except that he will act the way he does, without wanting him to change.

• Once you’ve accepted someone for who he is, try to love him. Even if you don’t know him. Even if you hated him in the past.

The bible reminds us that we must reserve our judgement and understand that everyone sees things differently and Only God is and will judge us when the times comes. Matthew 7:1-23 "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

In world eyes we must remember that what is right to us may not be right for another. We cannot judge what people should or should not do. In spite of this, we can still share our opinion and be forceful in doing so. Being non-judgemental does not mean staying silent about what we believe, it simply means acknowledging that others can believe differently. These differences are not a problem, they are something to celebrate.

Therefore do we think that we can avoid passing judgment and instead build a bridge between two human beings. Let’s face it, you cannot expect perfection in people unless you are perfect yourself. You cannot judge and condemn the behavior of others unless you can say that your behavior is impeccable and beyond reproach.