NAWATAKIENI JUMAPILI NJEMA

THE CHALLENGES OF CRITICISM AND THE WAY FOWARD

We often become emotionally disturbed during a disagreement, or an argument, and our personality usually feels hurt, demeaned and in danger. Hence we destroy our own happiness, clarity and health and often behave in ways which we later regret.

The other person might be correct in his or her observations and criticism. In this case we would benefit by admitting it and making the proper adjustment in our behavior. We have everything to gain by listening and evolving through others comments. What prevents us is the belief that we are not lovable if we are not perfect. Thus, we do not want to see or admit our faults. When we realize that we are worthy of love and respect even when we are not perfect or right, then we will be able to look at our faults.

The other person might be wrong. In this case, it is his or her projection, and we need not be affected by these misconceptions or projections.

One solution would be simply not to react in one way or the other at first, but to reflect upon what has been said for some time so as to evaluate whether or not it is true.

We need not feel hurt, angry, defend ourselves, prove ourselves, or attack.

We can simply thank the other for this feedback and tell him or her that we will think about this observation and will gradually come to our conclusions, and if necessary, make changes.

Although it is hard but we should view the situation as an opportunity to look within and be our own judge

How we can go about handling such situation?

The golden rule here is that; Stay Calm: When people criticize you and say something that is totally unfair, focus on staying calm and not emotionally reacting to them.  Don’t allow the situation to escalate and suck you in deeper because that will make your honest evaluation of their criticism and the return to your peace of mind takes longer. 

Don’t be negative about the person; Find a way to Have Good Thoughts About he/she. Think 5 good things about the person who criticized you. 

A good advice is that Survey Yourself Do all you can to see things from their perspective and ask yourself if there is anything you could have done better.  Be open minded and honest while doing this exploration.  It is okay if you can see some truth in what they are saying.  It just means this is one of those times you get to learn and grow.

Despite someone arguing against if your ideas are true, the Truth Trumps reflect on the fact that you have followed your own truth and done what you know is right. There is nothing better than that.

Criticism becomes a reaction of disappointment, because their expectations in others have been crushed.

The Christian’s tongue should never be used for anything but good. “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word, nor unwholesome or worthless talk (ever) come out of your mouth; but only such speech as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it” (Eph. 4:29 The Amplified Bible)

How criticism should be handled according to the Bible?

When we make the wrong decisions we must accept our mistakes and apologize. The way we handle criticism is crucial. As Christians we must not become defensive or react in anger. We are called to be patient and wise when we deal with disagreements and conflict. We must listen carefully and respond lovingly. Our response to criticism must be done in a godly manner. As Christians we must accept our mistakes and trust God to set things right

Wait for your gut reaction to pass before doing anything; let your emotions disappear, so you don’t take the criticism personally and become defensive

Keep your mouth shut; listen, don’t defend

Discuss the person’s points; keep discussing the issue politely by asking questions and externalize the criticism more between the parties.

1 Peter 2:23

• When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly.

Joshua 1:9

• Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go."

Proverbs 15:1-2

• A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

Colossians 3:13

• Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Therefore criticism is part and parcel of our life given that;

If no one is criticizing you, you aren’t doing very much.

Criticism is a fact of life; the more you try to do, the more significant your efforts, the more you will be criticized. 

Criticism is crucial for personal improvement; it’s hard when we take it personally.

NAWATAKIENI JUMAMOSI NJEMA ILIYOJAA BARAKA

Askofu Mtega aeleza sababu za kujiuzulu

 

Na Cresensia Kapinga, Songea

 ASKOFU Mkuu wa Kanisa Katoriki, Jimbo Kuu la Songea, mkoani Ruvuma ambaye juzi ametangaza kujiuzulu, Norbert Mtega, ameelezea sababu zilizomfanya achukue uamuzi huo.

 Akizungumza na waandishi wa habari jana, alisema hali hiyo inatokana na kusumbuliwa na magonjwa mbalimbali ambayo ni presha, miguu, magoti kujaa maji na kukosa usingizi kwa muda mrefu hivyo kujisikia kizunguzungu na tayari amewahi kuanguka zaidi ya mara nne.

Alisema jamii inayomtazama inamuona yupo kawaida lakini ana matatizo makubwa ya kiafya kwa muda mrefu ila alikuwa akijitahidi kufanya kazi za kitume hali ambayo imechangia afya yake kuendelea

 

kuwa dhoofu. 

Aliongeza kuwa, tatizo la afya yake ni la muda mrefu hivyo ni bora astaafu mapema kabla ya kupoteza kumbukumbu ili aweze kumpa Baba Mtakatifu muda wa kutafuta Askofu mwingine ambaye ataweza kuongoza jimbo hilo.

“Nimeamua kujiuzulu kwa manufaa ya Wakatoliki wote, Jimbo Kuu la Songea na jamii kwa ujumla ili niweze kupatiwa matibabu kwani nikiendelea kung’ang’ania uongozi, hasara yake ni kubwa sana kwa jamii ninayoiongoza.

“Namuomba Mungu anipe afya njema ili niweze kutoa ushauri zaidi kwa waumini, Mapadri na Serikali,” alisema.

Amewahimiza waumini na viongozi wa dini, kuendelea kuwa na ushirikiano, kuacha tofauti za ukabila ambazo zinachangia kurudisha nyuma maendeleo ya Mkoa huo kwani ukabila ni hatari na unaweza kuwagawa, kukwamisha maendeleo.

Alisema yeye anatambua kuwa, watu wengi wameshtuka kutokana na uamuzi aliochukua hasa kwa kuzingatia kuwa, alikuwa akifanya kazi zake bila wasiwasi.

Amemtaka Askofu ajaye, kuhakikisha anaendeleza mema aliyoanzisha hususani katika nyanja ya elimu, afya, maji, mazingira ili kuwaletea wananchi maendeleo na kuahidi kuendelea kutoa ushirikiano na ushauri.

Mkazi wa Mkoa huo, Watson Nganiwa, alisema Mtega atakumbukwa kutokana na kuwajengea uwezo wananchi wa j i t e g eme e n a k u a c h a kutegemea wafadhili, kuhimiza wafanye kazi kwa bidii si kutegemea misaada.

Alikuwa akishiriki shughuli mbalimbali za kijamii, kiserikali na kuwashirikisha viongozi wa Serikali pamoja na kukemea maovu miongoni mwa jamii bila woga.

 W a n a n c h i w e n g i wamempongeza kwa uamuzi aliochukua na kumtakia afya njema ili aweze kupona, kuendelea kutoa ushauri na kuwataka viongozi wengine kuiga mfano wake.

Mtega amelitumikia Jimbo la Iringa kwa miaka sita na baadaye Jimbo la Songea miaka 22 hivyo amekuwa askofu kwa muda wa miaka 28, Kiongozi wa Idara ya Elimu katika Baraza Kuu la Maaskofu na Msimamizi wa kitume katika majimbo nane.

 

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HOW CAN WE INTEGRATE GOD’S CREATION AND JOB SATISFACTIONS?

Work is part of the God’s creation. To be a good worker is therefore a blessing;

God wants us to find meaning, purpose and fulfillment in any kind of work we are talented in our workplaces. This is possible if only we are going to integrate godly principles in our jobs;

God reminds us that our work is in his hands although sometimes it is hard and frustrating, still we need to be thankful.

The parable of the talents shows that God is still asking us to be fruitful and productive. This parable presents a clear demand from God for a return, and the greatest return often exposes us to the greatest risk.

10 (TEN) JOB RESPONSIBILITIES;

1. Know that we are anointed for the job or position we now hold. God uses ordinary circumstances as a training ground to perfect our character. 
2. Don't expect to be appreciated. God values humility and servant hood, not pride and entitlement. 
3. Embrace opportunities for change. May we reach the stage of maturity when we are no longer surprised by change? 

4. Do the job well while remembering the vision. The secret to performing your duties well where you are is to maintain a vision of where you're headed. 

5. Don't let the environment get inside us. To counter bad attitudes, behavior, and gossip, maintains prayer and Bible study. 

6. Increase our capacity to work with difficult personalities. Too often we only try to fit in and connect with others similar to us. 

7. Where we are now is not where we are going. Be peaceful while progressive…. 

8. Achieve optimal results with minimal confusion. We spend too much time trying to compensate for our weaknesses rather than capitalizing on our strengths. 

9. Do not pledge allegiance to cliques and groups. The enemy tempts us with the security of the group and the approval of others. 

10. Keep our song near us. Spend time in God's presence. Study His Word, offer up prayer, and look deep inside yourself to call up your song—praise and worship Him.

GOD BLESS US AS WE CONTINUE WORKING HARD; AND BE HONEST AND TRUE TO ONE ANOTHER;

BEFORE YOU CONDEM ME,,,,,,,

Before you judge my life,
My past or my character, walk in my shoes, walk the path I have traveled, live my sorrows, my doubts, my fear,
My pain & my laughter...

Remember everyone has a story, when you have lived my life then you can judge me....

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KUMBUKUMBU YA MZEE WETU ALOIS HOLANGOPI TURUKA ALIYETANGULIA MBELE YA HAKI MIAKA 19 ILIYOPITA

• TUTAKUKUMBUKA DAIMA

Kuna msemo wa kale unaosema kuwa kifo kinatufungulia mlango na kutupeleka sehemu ambayo  hatuifahamu; lakini Yesu katika mahubiri yake aliupinga mtanzamo huu pale aliposema katika John 11:25-26 “Mimi ndiye huo ufufuo na uzima. Yeye aniaminiye Mimi, hata akifa atakuwa anaishi 26 na ye yote aishiye nakuniamini hatakufa kabisa hata milele”. Mtume Paulo yeye anatufundisha katika sura ya 14:8 kuwa 8 Kama tunaishi, tunaishi kwa Bwana, nasi pia tukifa  twafa kwa Bwana. Kwa hiyo basi, kama tukiishi  au kama tukifa, sisi ni mali ya Bwana.  

Lakini  pamoja na uthibitisho wote huu kifo sio rafiki mzuri hata kidogo katika maisha yetu kwani hata tukisoma kutoka katika kitabu cha Marko 14: 36 yesu aliwaambia wafuasi wake kuwa “Moyo wangu umejawa na huzuni kiasi cha kufa. Kaeni hapa na mkeshe.”  35 Akaenda mbele kidogo, akajitupa chini kifudifudi akaomba akisema, kama ikiwezekana saa hiyo ya mateso imwepuke. 36 Akasema, “Aba c Baba, mambo yote yawezekana Kwako. Niondolee kikombe hiki, lakini si kama nitakavyo Mimi, bali mapenzi Yako yatimizwe.’’

Kulingana na ubinadamu wetu tukio lolote la kifo halizoeleki hata kama utakuwa ni shupavu kiasi gani, kifo ni tendo ambalo halina kipimo kabisa,

Ni takribani miaka kumi na tisa (19) imepita toka Mwenyezi Mungu alipokuita katika makao yake ya milele;  tulijiuliza maswali mengi;  na tulipotamani majibu majibu yalikuja nusu nusu LAKINI tulifarajika na jambo moja kubwa la kumshukuru Mungu kwa kumjalia maisha mema hapa dunia katika kipindi chote cha uhaki wake, kwani alifanikiwa kutimiza majuku yake kwa kiasi kikubwa na kulingana na neema na maagizo yake; ukiondoa ubinadamu wetu;

Je tunapowakumbuka wapendwa wetu yatupasa tufanye nini sasa?

1. Tujitathimini uhalisia wa maisha yetu mbele yake kwa kujali zaidi matendo yetu na kuangalia mbele ili tuweze kusafiri katika mstari ulionyoka kama marko 8:62 62 Yesu akamwambia, “Mtu ye yote atiaye mkono wake kulima, kisha akatazama nyuma, hafai kwa Ufalme wa Mungu.”

Unakumbukwa sana na Mke wako mama yetu mpendwa Anna  M. Kinunda na watoto wako wote, wakwe, wajukuu wako,  vitukuu,  marafiki na kila mtu.

Sisi tulikupenda daima lakini mwenyezi Mungu alikupenda zadi kwani yeye ndiye aliye toa na yeye ndiye aliyetwaa kama anavyotufundisha kutoka Kitabu cha ufunuo 20:4 kinatukumbusha kuwa 4 Atafuta kila chozi, kutoka  katika macho yao. Mauti haitakuwepo tena, wala maombolezo, wala  kilio, wala maumivu, kwa maana mambo ya kwanza yamekwisha kupita.’’

Amen