- START SAYING NO in a warm and friendly manner ;
- We always want to be liked
- "Do all things without grumbling and complaining” (Philippians 2:14)
I think learning to say no to people
is one of the best things we can do for ourselves, yet too many people is difficult.
But we forget that people will like us better and respect us more if we say no when it's appropriate. In day to day
life when you say no to someone you are letting them know that you have
boundaries. You are showing that you respect yourself and at the same time it's
easy to gain respect from others because you are telling the truth
behind the scene.
We need to say yes only when we
have the time and true ability to do a job or fulfill the request; the problem comes when we keep saying yes to everything; this can lead to performing a bad job at everything. It is true
that saying yes to everything we stress ourselves out by overloading ourselves, and we
experience increased stress when we realize
we cannot accomplish it.
Saying no calls for a viable ability of being strong and
courageous. Thinking everything has to be yes makes us avoid people, avoid
life and being cowardice of our own life. Eventually, failure to say
no leads abdication, resentment, and cynicism.
I belief that It is ok to
say no when somebody is asking you to step outside your true responsibilities
and outside your comfort zone to take on a task that is dangerous or one that
will overload you and affect your reputation.
We read in the Bible in Galatians 6:7, "Be ye not deceived, God
is not mocked, for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap." The bible
reminds us that Rather, we permit other
factors to influence our decisions and for the time being, forget that sooner
or later we will reap the consequences of our actions.
Failure to say no is a
product of our habit? Since most of our important values and habits are
established when we were young for saying yes to everything; “maybe” since then
we were not trained to say no; everything was yes; and if you said no you were seen as an unrespectful; because our
values, attitudes and habits, in most cases are the consequences of our actions.
As one writer wrote “The
ability to say no leads to the issue of ownership ask yourself who are
you? Who owns you? always try to be yourself when you say no or yes.remember that ; Sometimes if you don't say no you can end up hurting
yourself. The challenge is in learning to say no without offending others and
losing friends. Remember that a refusal is more readily accepted when given in
a warm and friendly manner
Therefore the challenge is
to discern when to say yes and when to say no.
When both responses flow from clear thinking will be viewed as more trustworthy,
and we will enjoy our comfort zone.
According to St Paul when we fulfill the promise of God we need to
say yes "In Jesus Christ, every one of God's promises is yes." It was
our Lord himself who said, "Let your word be yes, yes, or no, no; anything
else comes from the evil one." Those who have traveled his way have never
found it wanting.
Lord let me learn to say no; let me do something just not to be
able to please people
